How to Find Your Purpose in Life, According to a Therapist

A therapist explains ‘purpose anxiety,’ why finding meaning can feel overwhelming, and how everyday experiences can help you find it.

A therapist explains ‘purpose anxiety,’ why finding meaning can feel overwhelming, and how everyday experiences can help you find it.

Why most managers turn to control when it comes to disengaged employees, and why they should try another approach instead.

The 'cold coffee theory' suggests constantly delaying small pleasures may reflect a broader habit of putting productivity and obligations first.
Note: Here's a one-paragraph summary of **[The Strange Psychology Behind Always Letting Your Coffee Go Cold](#rid:1854566222)**: The article explores the "cold coffee theory" — the idea that habitually letting your coffee go cold reflects a broader pattern of delaying small pleasures and putting productivity, obligations, and other people's needs ahead of your own well-being. The author describes…

It’s often assumed people lose their minds in a crowd. Research on riots, festivals and sports tells a more uplifting story

Sometimes dubbed the 'pleasure chemical', dopamine is often wildly misunderstood. Nikolay Kukushkin delves into what the much-discussed neurotransmitter really does to our brains.

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critical part of human development—in fact, the most human part of human development—is to acquire a purpose

For 19 years, the NBA superstar Carmelo Anthony mastered the version of himself the world demanded. Retired from basketball, he confronts a harder question: who is he now?

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Hart remains an example of the street sweeper mindset. He does not need the ball to make an impact, and he understands who he is.
“If it falls to your lot to be a street sweeper, sweep streets like Michelangelo painted pictures. Sweep streets like Beethoven composed music. Sweep streets like Leontyne Price sings before the Metropolitan Opera. Sweep streets like Shakespeare wrote poetry.”

On hacker mindset
I waited years for someone to invest in my career. Nobody came.

How leaders can build a culture where employees feel valued.

Self-talk is a proven way to boost motivation, think clearly and process your emotions. These tips will help you use it well

Dwayne Washington was a teacher at St. Thomas More Catholic Secondary School, where Gilgeous-Alexander attended, and also his club coach.
The 2020 commencement speech you’ll never hear

Sports psychologists work with athletes to get their best performance on the field or court, but these tools are ones anyone can try.

Self-motivation isn’t some mysterious force that you’re born with or without. It’s a skill that can be learned and developed. By understanding the science behind it, you can master the tools you need to stay motivated and make progress on the projects that matter to you.
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Bertrand Russell’s magnificent Nobel prize acceptance speech.

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Some apps or websites are beautiful, stylish, and well thought out in terms of UX, but have one problem: they are boring. These products can trigger both desire and resistance in the user at the same time. Here are a few tricks that will help solve this problem not from a…
A theme in my practice is the leader who's seeking to increase employee motivation. In this context it's important to bear in mind the work of Frederick Herzberg, a 20th century psychologist who had a profound influence on our understanding...

Persuasive rhetorical techniques from the speeches of Demosthenes in Classical Athens to Cicero in the Late Roman Republic.

If you want to get anything done, there are two basic ways to get yourself to do it. The first, more popular and devastatingly wrong option is to try to motivate yourself. The second, somewhat unpo…

This is a book summary of Spark by Dr. Jeremy Dean. Read this Spark summary to review key takeaways and lessons from the book.
Reprint: R1405G Even in an age of relentless self-promotion, some extremely capable professionals prefer to avoid the spotlight. “Invisibles” work in fields ranging from engineering to interpreting to perfumery, but they have three things in common: They are ambivalent about…
Here are the 16 human needs as defined by professor Steven Reiss.

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These are psychological theories about motivation.

Asking for feedback is often fruitless. Why is that? In this article, we look at why most requests for feedback fail and how to effectively ask for feedback to improve.

“We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.”―Marshall Rosenberg, As a founder, my biggest regrets revolve around not having difficu…

When we want people to change, we typically tell them what to do. But what if we flipped the script and asked them for their wisdom instead? Behavioral scientist Katy Milkman PhD explains the power…

It’s important to understand that when you, as a leader, communicate with your team, using weaker words weakens your message and blunts your ability to inspire people. It’s not enough to just throw thoughts out there and hope for the best. You need to actively recommend ideas…
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Feeling safe is the magic ingredient to a healthy work environment. In this article Nir discusses novel research on how to eliminate toxic work culture.

Please enjoy this transcript of my interview with entertainment icon Jerry Seinfeld (@jerryseinfeld). Jerry’s comedy career took off after his first appearance on The Tonight Show with Johnny Carson in 1981. Eight years later, he teamed up with fellow comedian Larry David to…
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The goal is to use extrinsic and intrinsic motivation in concert.

A study on team loyalty among fans shows that club ranking plays an important role in how they identify with one another.

Don’t try to change someone else’s mind. Instead, help them find their own motivation to change.

B J Fogg is a Stanford professor who came up with a simple model of behavior that helps us understand why we take action or not take action at any given moment.

It’s more than just ticket sales. Rich Luker, a social psychologist, studies fandom and why, for example, someone might get a tattoo of their favorite team.
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After I published test && commit || revert, I got a variety of responses on Twitter and on Hacker News. The Twitter comments were mostly…

Transparency and the ability to take risks are big factors.

One question that has long plagued organizations is how to create high-performing front lines — without unexpected consequences. The solution may be simple: Focus on motivating frontline workers. An experiment with a national retail organization found that transforming the…
What Apple, Samsung, and Starbucks learned from Pepsi

South Island, New Zealand, a.k.a. Middle-Earth If you were to make a list of what you want to get done this week, it would mostly consist of things you have to do. Get groceries. Book a hair appointment. Get back to so-and-so. Read that health and safety thing for work. If you…

These people share conspiracy theories to promote conflict, cause chaos, recruit and radicalize potential followers, make money, harass, or even just to get attention.
They are opportunists.

Research is revealing the key to motivating empathy—and making it stick